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Most
couples go through some difficult period or
periods in their relationship. Often these
difficult times are connected to transitions and
adjustments in the family or in an individual
family member. A child's leaving for college,
the death of a parent, the loss of a job.
Ideally when a couple is faced with a need to
adjust, they should be able to turn to each
other. Unfortunately, some couples are unable to
experience each other as a source of support and
safety at these moments. As I see it, my job is
to help couples discover the patterns of
behavior that have brought them to this stage of
their relationship and afterwards, to show them
ways to connect and rediscover their
relationship in the present. As Freud noted, the
finding of a love object (mate), is the
re-finding of a love object (parent). I work
from the perspective that one’s family of origin
has much to tell us about one’s current
relationship with a partner. |
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